Well...

Yo, I know I suck.

I never write on this anymore. I think I have ADD. That would explain why I never write on here.
I start something and never finish it. I'm so bad.
This is the second blog I have had and this one is slowly dying a lonely death, just like my other one did.
UGH
So I will try my best to keep up with this, at least on some pathetic half trying level.

So anyways, shit has gone down in the last few months since the whole breakup happened.
I've been talking to the ex quite a bit.
He kept calling and would not give up, so I started talking to him again.

Apparently shit was not as it seemed with him.
He took care of that job here. So that is all cleared up.
He took care of his shit back home. So that is all cleared up.
And most shocking of all....he seems to have actually grown up and gotten
his shit together.
I was amazed to say the least. I have had some jaw dropping moments talking to him.
He actually is paying his bills, making money, and living on his own.
GASP!

Everything that I asked him to do, he has done.
He is taking care of the child support.
That was a big issue with me.
I speak to his ex, so I know if he is feeding a bowl of crap.
He really and truly is taking care of it.
We had a long conversation about it, and I confronted him about everything that I
knew about all of it.
He said that he went to court and realized that he has to grow up and take care of it, and no matter how much he disputes the amount, that he will just have to suck it up and pay it.
I had to pick my jaw up on that one.

He even stunned me with the whole living on his own thing.
Granted he has a roommate, but it's another guy.
And as we all know, two guys living on their own is like leaving two toddlers alone together.
They share an apartment, and they also are business partners.
OMG, he even has his own bank account!
That was a stunner. We are talking about a guy who lived off of cash, and couldn't write a check to save his life.
He bought a truck with his own money and even has insurance on it.
And he does his own laundry.

I'm telling you, this is not the guy that I lived with the past two years.
I asked him what brought on this sudden bout of grown up-ness.
He said it was me. Losing me was the reality check he needed to grow up, man up, and get a clue.
Who knew I was so awesome that I could inspire that??

And he wants to get back together.
He even said we should go to counseling to work out our issues.
That was another jaw dropper.
I was shocked that he even suggested that.
This is a guy who is so against anything like that, and to suggest that out of the blue was an enormous step for him.
I was blown away.
Combine that with the fact that he has gotten his shit together finally...
That's all that I ever really wanted from him.
Just get your shit together.
And he has...

So where does that leave me?
After many long sleepless nights, and long talks with him and my BFF, and much soul searching...
I'm gonna go home.
We are going to give it another try.
I know, I know.
He was a total douche.
But the kicker is I still love him.
And combine that with the fact that he has totally grown up, I think that it is worth it to try again.
I'm going to move home the first of June.
We are going to move back in together, and see how it goes.
If it doesn't work, at least I won't be stuck in a state where I don't know anyone, and don't have my friends and family there.
That has probably been the hardest thing for me since he left.
I don't know anyone here in Tampa. And I hate that.
And since I work from home, it's not like I have a chance to meet someone from work.

So yeah...that's where it all is at now..
And maybe I'm making a mistake..
But maybe I'm not..

All I know is that I miss him...

So....yeah....

So I know I haven't posted.
It has been madness, to say the least.

Asshat has moved out and moved back to Texas!
Yay me!

He caused quite a bit of drama with his moving away.
Turns out he took almost $10,000 of a customers money.
Whoopsie...
He claimed the day he moved out that he was going to do the customers job and then give me some bill money.
Apparently he was blowing smoke up my ass.

That afternoon he hopped a Greyhound back to Texas.
Then called me two days later and lied and said he was in West Virginia.
Apparently he was lying so I would not tell his customer where he was.
You see, taking the customers money is a felony.
And he knows it.
But he fucked up.
He called my former best friend in Texas to pick him up from the bus station.
He didn't think that she would call me. Or that I would call her.
We had this falling out thing, but we're girls. We got over it. Just never told him.
So anyways she confirmed he was in Dallas, so I confronted him.
He was shocked to say the least.
And now he is claiming he is going to file bankruptcy, blah blah blah.
It's just loads of B.S. and drama that, thankfully, is now 1200 miles away from me.

So now all is well here.
Yay!

I move in less than two weeks into the most adorable little house here in the
neighborhood.
And......
I had a date last night.
With a guy who..
has a job
has a car
has a life


So it can only go up from here on out baby.....

Out with the old, in with the new....

He's moving out today.


Nuff said........

Tis the season to be warm....

So here in Tampa it is hot.
Like a mo-fo.
What the hell?
Where is my Winterwonderland???


Sigh...
I miss Dallas.
The cold, the stores, the unholy amounts of Mexicans.
Ok, not so much on the Mexicans.


So Tampa is not so bad.
The cost of living is much better here than in Dallas.
I can at least afford to eat here.
Back in Dallas I had to choose electric or food.
Rock meet hard place.

But jeez, I'm running my AC!
In December!
Come on, can it not cool off just 10 more degrees??



Ugh, can I place an order for snow on Ebay???

So I did something....

I really hate my BF.
And it's not just a "I'm mad at him, so I don't like him right now"
kind of thing.
I really actually hate him.

It takes everything I have in me to be nice to him.
I can't stand him being here, let alone sleeping in my bed.
I hate the fact that he is driving my truck, sitting at my computer,
and eating my food.
BUT HE WON'T LEAVE!!

Friday we had yet another fight over money.
I told him to get out.
He is still here....

I've told him to get out several times, but he never leaves!
Do I need to put it in writing for God's sake?!?

He has not always been the most consistent person when it comes to working.
He ran his own construction company back in Texas and basically drove it into the ground.
And when money has been tight he has always refused to get a real job.
He always says he will work it out and find something.
I could never understand why he wouldn't just take a job somewhere.
But he would eventually earn money to pay the bills.
Well his construction business that he started here in
Tampa has finally bitten the dust.
He has been doing odd jobs here and there for money, but has basically just been living off of me and my paycheck now.

We have gone round and round about him working and now he tells me he is "formulating a plan" to get a new job as a bus boy.
WTF??
How do you formulate a plan to get a job as a bus boy??
I'm pretty much done with him at this point.
He won't work, won't help around the house, won't do anything.
He has now taken to staying up all night on the computer and sleeping all day.

And living off my dime.

And he is not paying any of his bills.
He has let all of his bills go, including his child support, which infuriates me.
He has told me repeatedly during the time we have been together that he has been paying his child support.
He swore to me just a few weeks ago that it was paid up.
I found out that he has not been paying it at all!
He is $80,000 behind!!!!
AND he has not filed a tax return in 10 years!!
And he has also lied to his ex and his kids about still being in Texas.

And now he has a court date in Texas next month over the child support.
They are probably going to put him in jail for it.
And he is now basically hiding out here in Tampa so he won't have to take responsibility for any of it.

Soooo....
I emailed his ex and gave her all of his info and our address.
She was stunned.
And grateful.
Now the courts know where to find him, and next month he
will most likely go to jail for quite a while.


And he has no idea I did this. I haven't told anyone...

Yeah, I've slacked off...

I know, I know. I am a bad blogger.
I have not posted anything lately!
But really, who wants to read the same thing
over and over about BF and his laziness??

So thanks to FB, who has the most awesome
blog, I'm going to try and write more often.

So updates...
Well, BF has no job, no money and is still lazy.
No new news there..sarcasm intended...
I, however, am doing better.
YAY!

Bills are now paid up and the pantry is full baby!
Here is how I did it:
Coupons and un-enrolling from my stock options.

The first biggie is the stock options.
My company's stock tanked. So they offered us
an un-enrollment. We could take what we had contributed
for the January buy up and pocket it, or we could go ahead
and do the January buy up.
I chose to take my money back.
It just made sense. I had almost $2,000.00 banked
for the stock buy up and it would have been a loss to buy it and
then try to sell it.
Traditionally most of the employees buy the stock in January and July
at a discount and then we turn around and sell it right away.
It's always been profitable for me. One year I doubled my
investment. This year it was not gonna happen.
I would have been lucky to get back what I put in. So
I took the opt out.

I was able to pay all of our bills and do Christmas for the kiddos and
my mom.
It feels great. I don't have to worry that any day now the electric
will be shut off, which is not good since I telecommute.
I don't think work would like that too much.

I didn't tell BF about any of it though.
He needs to get off his lazy ass and do something.
I told him electric was due this week or they were turning it off.
What did he do? Well, currently he is playing a video game.
It's so over. I'm just trying to figure out how to get him
to move out peacefully now...But that's a whole 'nother story!
But bills are paid, got some money in my pocket, and bills for
next month will be covered by my check, and I will now have
extra in each check since I'm now ahead. YAY!!

As for the groceries...
I have discovered this concept called couponing.
Yeah yeah, duh.
But I have seriously started couponing now.
And it's totally awesome.
I had been shopping at Aldi since it was so cheap, but
now I'm back to the regular stores with familiar, well
known brands that we all know and love!
Now don't get me wrong, Aldi is great, but if I can get the
same name brand item for less, I'm gonna go for it.

In the past month I have managed to stock my whole pantry.
We are actually out of room in the cabinets.
The freezer is full too!
I have been watching the sales, and buying only what's on sale
that I have a coupon for. I don't buy it if I don't have
a coupon, unless it's meat, milk, things like that, that rarely
have a coupon. Although I have been shopping at one
store that has in-store coupons for awesome meat deals.
I've also been hitting the CVS ECB's hard. Thanks to those,
I have tons of shampoo, conditioner, toothpaste, deodorant,
mouthwash, laundry detergent, and cleaner to last for months.
And it cost nothing thanks to the ECB's!
And to think, just two months ago I was scrounging
change just to buy shampoo and deodorant.

Things are starting to turn around finally.
FINALLY!!
I will be able to feed us and pay our bills and
not struggle so hard.

Now, I just need to kick out the lazy bastard and
I will save even more money!

Frugal groceries...

So I'm trying so hard to save money.
I found this on Frugal Mom:

Save Money On Your Grocery Bill

We've all heard about certain ways to cut your
grocery bill like avoiding the grocery store when you're hungry, using
coupons on double coupons day, and buying only the items on your list. These are all good tips and we should keep using them. However, I've found a few pointers that might help you save even more on your grocery bill.

The first thing you need to do after you've made your
grocery list is to try to figure the total cost of
your grocery bill. Make sure you've got everything on the list that you'll need because after you've made an educated guess you're going to go to your purse (or wallet), take out the cash and leave the rest behind. Believe me, this will definitely cut back on the unnecessary extras because you won't have the credit cards to fall back on. And if you're like me, you'd rather be hung upside down by your toe nails than be found short at the check out.

This is a great article about how to shop frugaly.

I have been shopping Aldi lately.

I got the best deals yesterday!
Bread was a quarter a loaf!

Is it sad that I get excited over bread???